“This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:32)

A huge mistake I’ve seen, that many people make in their marriage, is found in 2 Corinthians 10:12. Paul said that those who were measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves among themselves were “not wise.”

I always hear people say that every marriage has its ups and downs. And because they’ve heard and said it so much, they begin to live out a marriage that actually has its ups and down. The reason they have this type of marriage is because they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves among themselves.

I believe in a perfect marriage; with no fights, arguments, or disagreements; simply because I believe the union between Christ and the Church is the Standard for marriage.

I love how the Holy Spirit places importance on every word in the Word of God, and also places every word in its proper place. Looking at Ephesians 5:22-33, where husbands and wives are told how to behave toward one another, God pointed out one simple word, and stamped what He taught me long ago, a marriage can be perfect! In verse 22, a wife is instructed to submit herself to her own husband “as unto the Lord.” In verse 25, the husband is instructed to love the wife, “even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”

Now, as elementary as this word may be, I knew God was teaching me something, so I went to Webster. Webster defines “as,” as equally; and we know equal to mean of the same quantity, size, quality, value, etc.

So if the wife submits to the husband as equally as she does to God; and the husband loves the wife as equally as Christ loved the Church – how could a marriage not be perfect?!